Comments on: should you bring an infant to a funeral home for a visitation?

By: beccanimf

beccanimf — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 04:09:39 +0000

Even if you only go for a short time, I think the family would be really touched if you go. I took my son to his great grandfathers funeral, he was around the same age as your son, and he was well behaved the entire time, even making his great grandmother laugh at one point (there was a whole smelly nappy + funeral car incident…).

You’ll be able to tell if they are uncomfortable with you being there anyway. Go along, pay your respects.

By: Tracey

Tracey — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 08:35:09 +0000

I would think a child as young as 7 months old would be fine to bring to a visitation. Make sure you’re available to leave if he gets fussy. People may actually enjoy seeing a happy, beautiful baby at such a time of sorrow.

By: Momto2inFL

Momto2inFL — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 05:37:20 +0000

I’d say it’s okay to pay your respects. Just walk in and walk out. Don’t stick around. And as you said, if the baby is fussy, send a card with your condolences.

I’m sure either way, seeing you pay your respects is more meaningful than the fact that you have your infant with you.

Good luck! I’m sorry for your loss…

By: ladydye_5

ladydye_5 — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 16:49:46 +0000

i agree with the other poster,,,a baby can be a wonderful distraction. it is a very sad time and a happy beautiful baby can lift the mood for a short time. also agree that if baby is fussy or crying to leave the room. our kids were not babies at my mothers funeral but they were 5,5,4 and 1 and we let them roam, play, talk, color, watch movies etc. My mother lived her life around her grandchildren and we let them do what they wanted knowing that grandma would want it that way. (we did the same at my grandmothers funeral).
if baby is in a good mood and you are ready, take baby along. if you can try and go after a nap/lunch time so baby is happy and refreshed.

By: Tiya

Tiya — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 20:31:30 +0000

I think it will be okay to bring the baby. Just make sure you excuse yourself if the baby gets fussy or just pop in for a sec just to show your respect. Your friend will really appreciate you coming.